Who don’t love of having spare time? In this time, we can relax, sleep longer than usual, don’t have to think hard, play many games, etc. For workers, it’s hard to find spare time, because they have to go to work from Monday to Friday, from 9 to 5 everyday. In weekends, they already have plans to hang out with families or friends or coworkers. They nearly don’t have time for themselves. Read more
If no, then you can say, “Well, I hope you feel better. In the meantime, could you please take your stuff upstairs?” If he sasses, you respond again with kindness: “I’m sorry you’re not feeling well, but we still have to follow the house rules. Please pick up your stuff and take it to your room. Then I’d love to know if there’s anything I can do to help.” Read more
• Practice banishing your negative thoughts and language and focusing on what you desire for your stepfamily. For instance, when I was annoyed and hurt that the kids didn’t like the meal I cooked, instead of giving in to the negative thoughts, I could have decided in the moment not to think them. Read more
It can be awfully hard to think of positive things if you’re mired in anger, self-pity, fear, or any of the emotions on the negative side of the spectrum. So I’ll give you a few examples to get you started.
• Do loving things for yourself. Get a massage. Have lunch with your best friend. Go for a walk. Take a yoga class. Check out the new exhibit at your local museum. Listen to beautiful music. Read more
First, the kids complained, which, as every parent and stepparent knows, they all do. Second, I got mad. Third, my husband became supersensitive to my mood and got angry at the kids. Fourth, the kids picked up on the bad vibes and acted out even more, which put us back where we started, because I got mad again. Read more