Since the addition of a new member of your stepfamily unit will spark a transition for everyone involved (the ex, too), it’s important to consider everyone’s feelings. If you think having a baby is going to make your stepfamily feel like a real family, you may be in for a surprise. Consider your reasons for having a baby. Make sure you and your husband are doing it because you want a child.
An infant can help mend rifts between stepfamily members, since there is someone who now shares blood with everyone in the family. However, a new baby can also divide a stepfamily because, in some cases, the involvement of the father with his new child makes his older children feel left out. Spend some time thinking about your desire for a baby.
Consider what your life will be like if you don’t have one. How will you feel? Will you feel resentful? Sad? Have you always wanted to have your own kid? Now consider the other side. What do you think your life will look like if you add another member to your family?