Forgiveness is:
- Forgiveness is for you and not for your partner.
- Forgiveness is taking back your power from being wounded.
- Forgiveness is taking responsibility for how you feel now.
- Forgiveness is about your healing and not about your partner’s action.
- Forgiveness is a trainable skill, just like learning to throw a baseball.
- Forgiveness helps you get control over your feelings today.
- Forgiveness can improve your mental and physical health.
- Forgiveness is becoming a hero instead of a victim in the story you tell about what happened.
- Forgiveness is a choice you make.
- Everyone can learn to forgive.
- Forgiveness is about today and not yesterday.
- Forgiveness is making peace when you did not get what you wanted.
- Forgiveness is acknowledging the hurt.
What Forgiveness Is Not:
- Forgiveness is not condoning your partner’s unkindness.
- Forgiveness is not forgetting that something painful happened.
- Forgiveness is not excusing poor behavior.
- Forgiveness does not have to be an otherworldly or religious experience.
- Forgiveness does not require you to reconcile with your partner.
- Forgiveness does not ask you to give up having painful feelings.
- Forgiveness does not mean you can’t take your partner to court to get what is owed you.
- Forgiveness does not mean you have to stay together.